Arrogance vs Confidence

I really don’t get why people have to be arrogant. Silly me I always thought that arrogant people were confident. I was totally wrong. But then again, people can also be confident yet arrogant at the same time. That doesn’t mean that all confident people are humble. There can be stuck up ones too. Anyways, talking about arrogance vs confidence.

Arrogance mostly derives from insecure people. They become arrogant and always think they’re the right ones, without argument. They’re so insecure that they gotta filter that with an arrogant attitude. I’ve also met people who are only arrogant to certain people, yet they’re humble with people they know. I don’t know what to say about this one, but I think it’s just a matter of preference.

Confidence simply means that a person is brave enough to step up, and even when they know they’re wrong, they’re able to accept it, learn from it, grow and move forward. Unlike arrogant people, who simply can’t accept it when somebody points out their wrongdoings. They can’t accept the fact that they’re wrong and won’t be able to better themselves because they’re always the “right one”.

I think this is an interesting topic. Because it relates to me, I’m never arrogant. But people might think I’m arrogant before they speak to me. Some say that I have a R.B.F (Resting Bitch Face). But you’ll never know if you never find out right? People always be judging from the cover, but not the contents of it. Just because I’m an outspoken person, it doesn’t mean I want to be the centre of attention. Heck no.

How I found out that i’m actually an outspoken person was way back in primary school, I guess I was only 9 years old. Here’s how the story goes ;

It was in school. I was standing nearby the billboard on the wall, and a teacher passed by me. She stopped to look at the same billboard I was standing nearby, and she pointed out some mistakes on one of the posters. There was nobody there except for me and that teacher. She then said “Apa lah, kenapa diorang buat macam ni? Tak patut!”. She wasn’t looking at me when she was saying that and there was only me and her that time. So to me it was obvious that she was actually talking to me, because in my head was why would this teacher talk to herself? She’s a teacher. And so I acknowledged her and I said confidently, “Ha tu lah, tak patut diorang buat macam tu kan!”. She finally turned to me and just stared. It was weird that she didn’t say anything to me after I said that, then I thought maybe there’s just something wrong with her. And she just walked away. 

See, in 2003, I suppose students weren’t suppose to talk back to their teachers. I mean in general it’s not right to talk back to your teachers unless you’re standing up for yourself for something that you didn’t do wrong. And that time, I wasn’t even talking back. I was just acknowledging and agreeing to what she said. But she stared at me as though I was a rude student, and I couldn’t understand that. I was only 9. I would feel weird and rude if I didn’t acknowledge her because there was only me and her that time. So maybe she was staring at me because she just didn’t expect me to say something? She stared in a shocking way. So she’s weird, and I’m not. I’m just a normal person, but I guess my kind of normal wasn’t normal to the environment she grew up in.

So that’s how I realized that I’m actually an outspoken person.